According to current data, roughly half of all children in the UK will not live with both parents simultaneously by the time they are fourteen. While ‘staying together for the sake of the children’ was historically used as reason for staying in a troubled marriage, this begs the question of whether a child’s wellbeing is more affected by parents divorcing and living in separate homes, or by them staying in an unhappy marriage under one roof.
However, many studies have found that children of divorce have much more developed powers of resilience, as well as a more sophisticated understanding of the complexities of relationships. They can be more intuitive and empathetic as a result; increasingly important life skills in the modern world.
Counselling and family therapy can help couples (and children) going through problems, as well as assist children experiencing difficulties at home. Relate, and other organisations offer counselling services for every type of relationship in the UK –can be a good first port of call before taking steps to end a marriage, as well as place children’s welfare higher up than may normally be the case when going through relationship difficulties.
The Family Court will also endeavour to direct child arrangements that assist the child to maintain a stable and healthy relationship with both parents (provided there are no safeguarding issues), rather than prioritising a relationship with just one parent.
If you are a legal practitioner then it may be useful to listen to the two-part podcast from Resolution on Parenting After Parting here, or if you are a child of or parent going through divorce this podcast from The Divorce Podcast sheds light on divorce from the child’s perspective.
It is always helpful to have the advice and guidance of a family law expert if you are considering divorce or concerned about arrangements for your child on separation – Vardags has a dedicated team of experienced family lawyers who are adept at managing these issues, as well as exploring the best options for you and your family. [1] The 2023 Mental Health of Children and Young People in England report found that 20.3% of eight to sixteen year olds had a probable mental health condition, up from 16.67 % in 2022. The proportion of seventeen to nineteen year olds was 23.3% in 2023. https://digital.nhs.uk/data-and-information/publications/statistical/mental-health-of-children-and-young-people-in-england/2023-wave-4-follow-up